Giving THANKS | Getting Through the 'Desert', Seasons Changing & Thanksgiving | The MJ38 Show #107

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Welcome in, 107 Ain't talking desert talk. It's gettin cause, yeah. Life's, It's so much to keep up with. All the time. You know. So much to keep up with all the time. Dude, you're killing it. You're killing it. Hey. Thanks, bro. I don't want a curve of what you're talking about, but we're just at your wife's birthday slash housewarming party yesterday. House was amazing. Family is amazing. Everyone's happy. Just like doing the thing, man. It's perfect, but it ain't perfect. You know, I'm saying that's that's perfect, is it? That's right. Yeah, but it's worth it. Yeah, man, I was just, like. So, inspired or moved, I guess is a move. Probably the more out, the right word where I'm just like, man, like, you just have a great life, man. So cool. Danny. I appreciate it, man. Yeah. It's, it's a lot. They were real pretty content. We're all pretty content. Jasmine's going through some stuff, but it's just like, It's crazy to see the social. Like the social care, like curation of what's going into your human. You know what I'm saying? Like the humans that you're having your children, but also yourself. But then, yeah, it's because like, she's she's had like a two different school she's been going to over the last 2 or 3 years. And even if like from then to now, like that school to this school, it's all connected now. You know, this way, like if you move schools back in our day or even before our day, it was like a new life, you know, same very minimal tie back to what you were doing or who you used to be. Yeah. But then now it's like everything's so interconnected with social media and TikTok. Yeah. It's like it's all the social circles are getting larger, right? The area of judgment, you know, I'm saying. Yeah. The area when you have judgment like the judgment you're receiving. Yeah. Okay. Yeah. Through social media. This connection. Yeah. I guess it's weird to put yourself in the shoes of someone that, kind of has to care about what the judgment is, you know. Because yeah I don't, I don't care at all. Yeah. But as a kid it's a, it's a whole thing. Yeah. And you have to keep up with it. It'd be negligent not to. And yeah it's it's a lot. It's like it's a lot of kids are going through a lot. So. Yeah. So they ain't perfect. But it's perfect and it's worth it. And we're all you know we're like it's all. It's like three individuals that are like being a family. You know saying right. Yeah. It's like all right. We're all doing the thing here. For the most part, like choosing to play house together, to play family together. That means, like, being socially engaging or putting on that mask of, like, I'm doing the family thing, you know? Yeah. That's energy in agreement. Patience. Tossing. Life's a whole thing. Appreciate it. Dog. It's all good. Of course, people have some positive and negative connotations attached to family. Most of mine are positive. Some people, not so much. And on that note, the holidays are coming up, which can be kind of like a stressful time with your family. Yeah, I definitely have. I think the holidays are a stressful time, and I think you're with your family during the holidays, and then sometimes family dynamics are super stressful. But for me, it's more just like, I get a little emotional. I think we all get emotional around the holidays. Yeah. I thought literally occurred to me today as I was like, driving home, just like the idea of the holiday season. And then I remember that episode from scrubs, where Turk's, like, working his first surgical shift at the hospital during the holiday season. And it's like the level of level of admittance is like the highest during that time, like in the hospitals and stuff, you know. Okay. And then the holidays. Yeah, that makes sense, I guess. Yeah. It's like a super. Yeah. It's like, super stressful time. Okay. You know, it points to that in the show at the at least it's heavy, you know. So yeah. Yeah. I think because sometimes we're not dealing with our baggage, you know, or like what's when you're with your family. A lot of what you do is like, catch them up about your life and then when you're catching up about your life with the people that you're closest to, like most the time for wise counsel or the people that know you best, like, it's like it's more likely that you'll be honest, like on a deeper level about what's going on in your life. Like, I could say, like I went to the gym and, I haven't picked back up fasting in the last two weeks. So this week I really want I focus on doing the fasting all week surface level stuff. Or I can be like. I need empower 38 to take the next step. So I'm trying to kind of work hard on how do I not just like, do what I'm doing day to day, the same thing every day? But how do I get like, new things added to what I'm doing that will help us go to the next level? So doing that's really important to me. That's even one level deeper where I can be like, you know, you know what I'm trying to say, may families get to know you on the deepest level. People you are closest to. Yeah. They're really going to know what's going on with you or like with what you're talking about. If you're not telling them what's really going on they're probably likely to be like, you know, well how's this? And you're going to have to like confront some of the stuff. You can't really put it all away. So what I'm trying to say, and so having to go through your life with the people that you love, I think can be a stressful thing, and we can not do that if you just work 50 hours a week in your own little apartment, for the most part. That's emotional stuff to like man I don't know man. It's a heavy time. Heavy time. It's a heavy time. It's crazy I think. Yeah. And that's a trope that I've heard since that episode. And like I, I was like that like the idea of it just like dawned on me today more. So I was like, yeah, I don't know. I just felt it. Whatever it is, it's like, okay, we're the holidays now. As I was driving over here, I saw like the trees where we very rarely have like a transitional period in between summer and winter here in Texas. It's kind of just like, you know, hot and then cold, but it's been it's still kind of warm over here. But like the trees were like turning from orange to yellow, you know, from green. I was like, oh, sad. We're fucking. That's the season, season change. But yeah, December or sorry, November is usually a disappointing month for me living in Texas because there's points in November that I just had like 90 degree days in November. But then when you get December, usually most days are cold. That's cool. But this is actually a difficult transition. Chris says that it's going to be super cold. This winter feels like the summer wasn't that hot and we're getting cold like earlier normally normally than we do. So November is like decently cold. December should be like snow. Maybe like not. It's always like February 2nd. It's going to be cold and it's going to be precipitation. But it may never be like cold enough to get snow. But on February 2nd, around that time every year, February 14th, around that time, it's very snow and it's very, precipitation. I remember thinking that when it snowed this past or like, I guess three years ago, around that time, I think it was on 20, 22 or 21. Well, 2021, I think at last year it was raining on the same time. We just weren't cold enough for it to snow. And then Christmas on me this I'm like, okay. Yeah. You're talking about like around that time when it's like a maybe on the fence if it'll snow. You're saying this year it will snow should be cool. That'll be cool to have a snow day yesterday. It's always fun. Yeah, I try to live in that shit, though. No, that'd be horrible. Crazy. Yeah. They're nuts. Yeah, and that's crazy. You know, a different breed, but I how y'all do him, that's a different breed. That's a question for later in the podcast that I've developed over time, which is just like, at what point do you decide that you need to move to a new environment, you know, because for some people, that answer is never. They'll just adapt to their environment and stay in that environment. I think that's like not a waste of resources, but it's just like, I don't want to be a polar bear, you know, like, but I don't want to choose to be that thing. It's like you have to adopt like a personality and adapt your person to someone who shovels their fucking driveway every morning. Sounds terrible. You know, I'd rather adapt to, like, right now. I have to adapt to the fact that it's hot all the time. That's like the part of being in Texas that your person has to adapt to. It's like there's a ton of sunlight and it's hot all the time, but it's not that bad. It's. I don't think that bad. It's not that bad. Of all the things you have to like rain, like pouring rain all the time. You got to be like something that basically has an overcoat on all the time. That'd be annoying as fuck. Anyways, anyways, just my thoughts on this, I forgot I don't. What's going on y'all. What's going on? I guess the show. Yeah. Holidays or sick holidays too. What's your okay? On a more exciting note, have you know a lot to look at and what are your favorite sides? Thanksgiving to the cast. Well, first of all, bingo. That's my number one answer as well. Let's go. That's sweet potato casserole. That's my number one answer. And I'd be willing to say it first. Okay. And Family feud. Yeah. Yes. I'm saying what if it's the Family feud? Mac and cheese is probably the only one I'd be afraid of if I said sweet potato casserole, mac and cheese. Or maybe green bean casserole. That's classic cliche. I think if you ask the boomers, they're going to say green bean casserole. The facts. But I love soup casserole. I'll make it sometimes if I'm going to make a side for like a potluck like situation, because that's also the number one thing that I'm judging. Some people really judge Mac and cheese heavily. I'm not judging you as a as a baker. I'm mac and cheese. Okay. Yeah. I'm just going to evaluate how good the sweet potato casserole is. Just as a person who's, you know, like you go see a movie, you know, you're going to be like, I thought it was great. So, you know, I like this. I like that the think about the main actor. Like, I think, fucking Brad Pitt was amazing in that movie. I'm definitely gonna go for the sweet potato casserole. I'm sorry. That was. That's me. That's me. Facts all day number. Okay, according to Judge, mashed potatoes, of course. That's. Yeah, but no, I mean, come on. Is that a given? Yeah. I'm not excited about the mash, and I'm not trying to shit on mashed potato. Make yourself. They need to be there, though. They need to be there. This is in terms of in need me to be there I think. Okay. I was like the most popular because I'm most looking forward to the sweet potato casserole for sure, but I don't think would be the number one answer. Oh, family feud really? Then one answer would be mashed potatoes, I think. Okay, okay, okay. What's Family Feud are we talking about? What's the most common side, most common. Somewhat the most interesting. The most common, the most the most popular, whatever that means. What does that mean? Yeah, the hottest, I would say potato casseroles. Yeah. A little flaming load you buy, it's let you know it's frickin fine. Off the charts. Level up with you. I guess it just depends what you're looking for. It depends what kind of person you are. Mashed potatoes. Regular potatoes are the sweet potatoes. Which one are you looking forward to? Yeah. It's fair, it's fair. Some people might be big potato people. My listeners are just like, give me good mashed potato. If I get it. I think that's potatoes on Thanksgiving table. Everything. Oh. Where's the where's the taters? Mashed potato. There's a classic Thanksgiving plate. What what are you going to see on it. Yeah. You know, green bean casserole I'm sure. Mashed potatoes. Fucking cranberry sauce stuffing or stuffing. Stuffing. Because of course, of course. Mac and cheese, green bean casserole. Super tater casserole. Cranberry sauce. Rolls. Biscuits. Yeah. Veggies and gravy. This is where this is. Cornbread. I like the roll. We do rolls at the crab, deviled eggs, coleslaw. Yams casserole. Crazy potato salad. Okay, okay. But me? Yeah. Me personally, I'm going sweet potato casserole. That's what I'm looking forward to. That's I'm trying to be like yes, yes, yes, yes I like that. That's what I'm that's why I'm going. Yeah, yeah I with you I love it. Sometimes it sounds good and I'm not particularly great at making it, but sometimes you have a sweet potato casserole that you're like, this is crazy. I don't know what you did here, but this is crazy. The other thing about the Canadians is me. This is crazy. But it was, the the the the casserole potatoes is like the girl next door that, like, got a good job. You know, she went to four year university. She's like a physician's assistant or something, you know? I get number one. I do a family feud. Sure, I totally into it. Sweet potato casserole is crazy good because it's good for you most of the year. Like, this is like, situation where your girlfriend's just, like, a good partner, you know? Okay. And really healthy for you. Makes a lot of great choices. But then you catch them on Thanksgiving. They've had a couple Jameson's on the rocks because that's what's going around. And and now all of a sudden we've got marshmallows, brown sugar, honey. We're getting kind of dirty here. Oh, what is this? Is this dessert? Yeah. There's some I turkey. This is just. They're just for me. It's so. Yeah, I like, sweet potatoes going to be a little dirty. And I get into that around the holidays. You know, it's nice to see the trends. You see, like, awesome, complex carb. Oh, my God, what is. That. Let's see that normally, then it's like yes. Yeah. Sweet potato dessert. Yeah. This is hitting. This is bang. It looks or whereas mashed potatoes like I know for 1KI get I get a great choice. Great choice. You know nothing wrong with that. Are you doing sweet potatoes and mashed potatoes on the plate at the same time? Usually, yeah. I drive the plates big enough. I try them both. Yeah. For sure. Oh, yeah. Ham and turkey. Yeah. Usually have to like the meat with the mashed potato with some gravy. You know. You know, stuffing this plate thing is like, not a problem at the Thanksgiving I go to now, my oldest of my step brothers, he's married and he is he's like 25. And he married this high school sweetheart. And so we'll go to their Thanksgiving and they have like every year they have like this big ass plate. It's like like like, like a lunch tray. And it's got like compartments in it. Yeah. They're like, load them. I forgot, man, and I'm just like, that's tight. You guys get it, you guys? Yeah. It's cool. Cool cultural adaptation. You need to be in a plate. Yeah. For potatoes and sweet potatoes. Yeah I wonder what's. Okay. So I guess we've found the most popular answers but it's a it's heavy time. Every time. Oh to touch Thanksgiving. Lovely. Well we get into Christmas which is what we want to talk about. Obviously that's what we're going. I always have a compulsion Thanksgiving to always be like, okay, we should all go around the table and say something that we're thankful for. I think that's a total coin flip. Whether or not someone can say, if you fuck, you don't. Don't do this right now. Let me bro, you know, but, but I like the it feels like we should, you know, we always sit down and eat dinner or whatever, but we unlike Thanksgiving, it's like a different episode. I think you got to do something, I don't know, do you ever. Do you guys have ever been a part of one of those circles where it's like, you got to go around and you say, we're thankful for? Yeah, it's definitely happened before in my lifetime. A couple times now, all the time. Okay. This happened a couple times for sure. Most people have the presence of mind and grace to not do that to everyone at the table, depending on the size of the gathering for the photo. But now I think maybe we would do that with my daughter for sure. But you know, at least say some sort of prayer over the food, you know? So what is Thanksgiving? What are we doing there? Giving thanks. Hypothetically embodying the spirit of gratefulness and gratitude. Thankfulness. Say for what you think? Yeah. For what I think. Logistically. Maybe someone started Thanksgiving and then everyone just felt like this forever. For one, we're doing. Am I thankful all the time? I think so, at least in theory. I'm not sure. Like the actual logistics behind it, this is a holiday pilgrims concentrated on gratitude. This is it makes more sense. It feels like a Native American tribe. Something on the sharing of food was more or less. I think the part of the premise for sure. Okay, okay, whatever. I'm down. And I think that's what's happened for the last hundred years. Someone said, okay, I'm done. It doesn't make a lot of sense, though. I'm never done. Maybe, maybe made more sense when, like, food was scarce. You know, they were like, on this day, everyone can get together and eat food, and the people that had a ton of food didn't feel so bad about having food all the time. Like, well, I give back on Thanksgiving. And then the poor people were like, I love Thanksgiving. I fuck with Thanksgiving. Keep that around. I don't know, I can tell you, I'm sure it's out there, but I'm sure everything, all the information that's out there is like, who's who says what? You know, at least to a degree, because history is written by the winters. It's like a. Do you think the Rockefellers engineered society to become factory workers? Potentially. Why not? That's right. Absolutely, absolutely. I could see that happening. Yeah. I'm like, I don't know, man. That that that's been haunting me for a little bit this past week. But somehow Thanksgiving is more heavy than that. Believe it or not, when you go back home and try to hang out with everybody most time, I feel like it's not just we're having a good time, but then I'll be watching my sister, who's like five years younger than me. I still have an emotional time sometimes around the holidays, and I'm like, that was just part of being young, you know? It's like it's hard. It's like when someone in your family passes away. I think it's a little more tough. The the tough to fun ratio becomes a little more disproportionate when you're a kid. The holidays the fucking best Christmas is the fucking best. It's pure enjoyment. It's not, it's not heavy when you're a kid. But I think that's part of what makes it heavy as an adult is that those are like peak memories. You know. Yeah I think it's heavy on both for sure. Or it's like. Because that's probably expectation as well you know sad. And if you're not having a Christmas it's like really great. Yeah. Fuck this. That's true. That's saying I guess the threshold for really great Christmas might be lower as a kid. Like anything is awesome. But at the same time, like if you don't have expectation mat for holidays, it's probably more crushing. As a kid, you have less coping mechanisms. Fair enough, fair enough. I think it's just a cool opportunity to put some there. Yeah, there's some in there. Making a heavier is an expectation generator. Yeah, right. Because we're human, you know, we want to have human experience, social aspect with the closest people. You know to a degree. Yeah. Right. In theory now I think that's that on. Yeah. Towards the end of the year before the new. Yeah. We want to have a life. You want to have a life. You want to go report dope stuff to the people you want to be. You want to feel good about what you're bringing to the table when you're coming to eat at the table, you know, like, we don't want that. We don't want to go back to our hometown and have all the girls want to focus back there. No, and that's a burp. But he's on the peloton and they're gone. And he's like, you go back, you hold to have Thanksgiving. Like, yeah, you're like, you're going to go out to drink. So yeah, you want everyone to fuck you. Yeah. Like put or but a lot of it was like at that moment I'm like, I fuck with this guy. I fuck with this workout. He's right. He just have to do this of the deep inside me. I do want everybody to want to sleep with me. I'm not going to shoot them, but I want them to want to. This. I was like, what is that? When you go back home, it's like you want to bring a product like you want to you want to have something to show or like feel good about it. And maybe not if you're like more secure, if you're just like, chill it, if you're happy with your life. But if you're not happy with your life, you really wish you you want to. You wish you could sell out and pay more right now to be able to bring something home in the next couple weeks, because it matters all of a sudden, you know, then you're gonna go back to your life and go back to, for instance, drinking a six pack a day. It's like, yeah, then, you know, but for whatever reason, it's heavy in that moment because you're going back to go present, present yourself, or be judged or be viewed or check in or it's metaphysical before the new. It's like, what did I do with the whole year? You know, I hope I'm happy about that. I'm hope I have something to be thankful for. There's a chapter of my story. It's like the those are just like the frameworks that we throw on top of the moment to like, give a structure and exist within it and create a story for us to live in. You know, we call it Monday. Tuesday. We like labeled it, you know what I'm saying? But it's just the moment. It's just the moment. The whole time. Oh, and we just put it is the game. I try to structure the game. I try to name the structure of the game. Yeah. And organize it like organized for ourselves. Yeah. And then the year is up and say, okay, it's it, it's like a. We measured it. Yeah. Yeah. We are getting older too. Because if we didn't listen to any of that, we would just be like, I don't know, thousands of years ago, I guess. When did we start, like accurately recording time? There's a point where this I think Augustus Caesar and Rome started a calendar, and then I think that's what we say. 80. That's when he started that calendar. And then I guess BC is more of like a, equation for going back in time from that point. And, I don't know, I guess they had some way of recording time, but like from the A.D. calendar, we we adopted from that once, and then you can track that one all the way back. So it's more recorded history as we looked it up on the podcast one time. Yeah, whenever we got I'm just like, down this level for you. Yeah. Because what are we talking about here? Yeah, I remember I may have brought up last time, but Louis C.K. has a joke referencing like, we center our time around, like the birth of this Jesus Christ character, you know, you kind of fucking one. Yeah, yeah. It's like we all just agreed, like. Or like that's that's what we're working with. Everyone here thinks it's 2025. We agree. Yeah. I heard someone saying like, yeah, okay. It's part of the structure. It's part of the game. But if we didn't have that like that pin down into our existence of how we run things, say 2000, 3000, 5000 years ago, 10,000 years ago, we were just going around the fucking sun. And then there would be points where it was one year, but we didn't know that that was happening. And probably the story was getting crazy at that point and we couldn't really know why, you know, or like the heaviness that we're alluding to that is kind of inherently attached to Thanksgiving and Christmas. It was like our own life even before, like Christ. Maybe. You know what I'm saying? Yeah, I would guess, yes, because life is narrative driven. That's part of the story. Yeah, yeah. That's what propels life. It's not like you. I don't think you get a life and then you may or may not go through story. It's like, I think the story is you get born out of the product of story, like your parents like had a baby. That was a narrative driven thing in their life. And then you're born out of story into their story, into your own story. So narrative propels the whole thing. There is no life for that story. Like stories, the, the requisite for it. So yes, I agree with you. But then also it's like the winters came every year. That's one thing I think why like years makes sense to us is because you would go through like the coldest day in the winter every year, and then it would get progressively brighter and warmer until you'd get in the spring, and then you'd know that was coming the whole time you were traveling through the year. And so I think when they proposed that, like, that's one lap and this is two laps and three laps, people are like, yeah, it like makes sense to me, you know what I'm saying? I've been here for seven winters. It's like, you know. Yeah. And you get older. That's the other thing too. I think that's why also why yours makes sense. Because, like, you have more wisdom, experience, knowledge, and you're not the same thing that you were. Even though it's like constant now. Like that part never changes. But the you changes inside the constant now. And so I think tracking that makes sense. It's like oh he's only two winters here. Fun noob doesn't know doesn't know. You take corn and bury. This is me as like a cave man. You know what I'm saying? Okay. Yeah. And, and so when we talk about, a calendar or years or moments or nows, that makes sense to me that we track them, you know, put on a calendar. I had someone in the scientific community, like, proposing or just, like, using in, like, a big, like maybe even like a Ted talk level, production. Not using BC anymore as, like the language, like using different language, removing grace from that language of like, describing time. I was like, did your pussy grow this year? Like, why would you today go visit this doc? Like, I can't believe you like crazy PC around that for your presidency and on ABC. Yeah. You're crazy. I mean, what we see before Common ERA, I think was something I've learned as well. Yeah. Whatever, dude. Either way, maybe when we're adults. Oh, fuck. I want it all. Anyone? I'm a rich at all. We should have a big Thanksgiving first. Like feast. Making Thanksgiving needs like a PR rebuild. Big for modern family energy. Let's hang out. People like people like Christmas so much more. But Christmas is great. Which one? Yeah. Which one do you lean towards? More Christmas? Yeah, because there'd be me do. Oh, yeah. It's great because then you cook great food too. And as Jesus, you know, come on, Jesus. Okay, so I think we should rebrand Thanksgiving to Holy Spirit Day. Okay. And then we just celebrate the Holy Spirit and make it super lit, which is what it already is. The idea of thanksgiving, right? Just those words. Like I said, what I mentioned earlier, the top tapping into the attitude of gratitude. Thankfulness like being receiving. You know, it's like, delightful kind of which we should have a thankfulness concert with the Good Music choir. That'd be cool to it's Thanksgiving. That'd be a nice rebrand. Rounding out my PR marketing pitch for Thanksgiving. If we're going to make Thanksgiving cool again. Holy Spirit day, that's a cognac answer. Yeah, but even as a dark like, you know, if we deep fried some turkeys or something like that got everyone together, I just want super hard. That's not what she's doing. That is too soon. So, yeah, I guess we will do. Yeah. So you do. I like to hang with my family as a 30 year old and as a 20 year old. It was stressful. Sometimes I don't know why. I'm the one who's going to get wound up at some point. You'll never listen. Just go with it. I have it every year. I don't know why it's want to. But I feel not that way anymore. I feel different as an adult. I really enjoy being around my family. Just like having time with them, not being with them, you know. The video work, work. And it's a way for that place is awesome. This is like yeah yeah dude. It's once you get past a certain age it's like we're all just adults now. You know once you've like past your 35 to 40, it's like, all right, here's like as adults as pretty much like a 60 or 70 year old to a degree, you know, saying. Yeah, to a degree, yeah, I'm with you because you're still like a kid kind of growing up in your kid phase and then like 18 to like 25 years like something else, and then from 25 to like 35. Year adult here. I think it always probably feels like you didn't know shit. That's ten years later, like, oh so stupid. Every time you like from 45 to 55 I feel like oh so stupid. I can't play 40 year to that stupid. Booyah. And then you get 65 you know like fucking moron. Oh yeah. Because you're always going to be like I should've invested in bitcoin. What an idiot. Dude. What a fucking idiot. I should have known Nvidia's. Oh my god. Should have known Nvidia's a Yahoo fucking Yahoo! Of course, I feel like it'll always feel like that with everything. I will always be there. But yeah I do feel like there's a threshold though. Shit though. Yeah. This is essentially crossed where I feel like I'm just really enjoying family time. Less useful anxiety problems more contentment. And Christmas is amazing. Yeah we love Christmas. Christmas is great I guess it's not. If it's not you know, let's try to give back as much as you can because again with certain people. But the best way to make Christmas not so time is to buy some presents for people around, you know crazy. Get into a culture of buy presents. Yeah. Get some presents. Maybe get some presents, have a nice meal. You know, like put yourself out there. If you don't know, you know, find where the Christmas dinner is at, where I'm can have Christmas dinner. You know, it's like a thing, the birth. Not as birthday, but the birth. Yeah. I'm, you know, sad, but I fucking love Christmas. Yeah. What is, like, the number one song that plays in your head when you think about Christmas? Of course. What do you think it is. Come on. Where. Okay. Yeah. Oh her Christmas. I never this is right. Is that it. Yeah I think right carries it is that's that's all right. That's like the most popular Christmas song. Yeah, yeah. I just can't think of how it goes. Really. I can, like, hear it in my head, but, like, with subtitles blurred out, it's like background noise. I wanna know where my own likes over here. Okay. But anyways. Dude. Okay, so I'm making a cool commercial for MP3. Did you wanna hear about it? Okay, yeah, we're about two weeks out, so I have, like, a clip of, Chef Kim's, like, plating the thing. This is the cold open, okay? And it looks kind of fine. It looks like the office. Almost. And then I'm, like, working on a way to, like, remove the steak. So she's, like, plating the steak, but there's no steak. That's a pork chop. Actually. And then, in the background I did like the AI music, and then I changed the lyrics to Enough Sunshine, just like a little bit, where it's like it just says, like, ain't know sunshine when she's home and she's always home to the home and it's, I can escape. But it's so it's like just a little off from, like, the original lyrics. And then it just the as it progresses, like the next one would be chef holding a steak in his hands, but then the steak sounded like not there. It's just like his hands. But then it'll be like the actual post comes in after that, where it's like the, the lit up version of him with the steak and then like the actual version of the pork chop on the plate with the pork chop. And then the idea is like, if you're not capturing your content, it doesn't exist. And then I was like, dude, this is fucking fire. It looks dope. And the After Effects work super well. It's it's kind of crazy. Yeah. I was like deep in rabbit holes on ChatGPT about using After Effects. But it was working, and I was like, this is kind of crazy, bro. And I want to learn all the AI tools. That's another thing I committed to, like this week was we talk about like everyone always ask me, are you using AI? How does I help you? And I'm like, touch it, which is great. But like if there are AI tools that do crazy stuff like generate video with your text prompts, it's like, I want to know how to. It's like what websites do I do that through, you know. Yeah, yeah, yeah. So the music one is just music. GPT you can like have it generate remixes and songs and stuff like that. I guess that's how they made the 50 cent remix. Okay, well, it's that simple. Yeah. And then, it's kind of crazy, bro. Yeah. I was saying about trying to get or more into that. Yeah, for sure. There's, there's not, there's not that much crazy stuff, but there is some crazy stuff. So I think using the, some of the crazy stuff integrated into the content you're making now, just the fact that you're using the newest, craziest stuff makes the content cool for whatever kind of content you're making. It's like seeing eye or watching. I mean, he's a captain. You're like, whoa, this is fucking trippy. You know? So it's kind of like engaging in that sense. That's why I think it's just cool to know when premiere puts out an update and they're like, we added this AI tool that lets you do this crazy feature. If you just make it, use it in your next post. It'll just like have more traction, I think because you're using a new thing that's out, you know. That's kind of like where my mind went last night. I was like okay if I just like getting stay current you know that'll kind of be cool is there's this thing called Premiere Beta that's like I guess they put newer features that aren't fully worked out. Yeah. And into their mainstay program. And you can download Premiere beta and it has like a little more accessibility. And it also looks like, premiere looks like Photoshop, but this one looks more like, what's the app that people use for Instagram posts on their laptops? Edits? Yeah, they'll make edits with it. I do my subtitles with it. I just can't hear what it's called. Oh, Capture. Yes, it looks like capture the premiere beta. It's just like styles. The same. And it's, I'm like, this is kind of cool. I wonder if they ever want to adopt doing it like that, or they like having no beta one way in there. Maybe it's a different way. That's editing talk. Yeah. It's like, okay, that's the that's that's the game that we're playing. You know, I'm saying as far as being in that pool of people because yeah, the we learned five, ten years ago, 15 years ago, 20 years ago. That's it's irrelevant now. Yeah. To a degree. Well, yeah, there's stuff like Garyvee I was I watched like a 15 or maybe it's like a mini garyvee video where he was talking about marketing. And I'm like, this is a culmination of he went through a bunch of phases where he's like, ain't nobody learned this. Anybody know about e-commerce? Anybody know about investing in social media companies at an early age? And he constantly felt like that. But then even he, like, gathered a bunch of wisdom from all those places, though, and he's talking about one of the things, just like good marketing starts with listening, because if you can actually solve an actual problem for people, like a drive through, for instance, it's like people will just kept saying like, oh, the line to get this burger is too long. It's like they needed a faster way to get a burger. So then making a drive through were more people got more burgers faster. But what it really did was it made the consumer feel heard. They were like, oh shit, this company's tired. Like the thing that we wanted them to do, they did that. And he's like, that's powerful. So like marketing. So you're going to market yourself. What you're going to do is like, fix a problem that your consumers are having, but you can only figure that out if you listen to them. It's like marketing and listening. Don't like feel like they're connected like that. And marketing and fixing a problem. Don't feel like they're connected like that. But like super effective marketing would be an ad campaign that addresses the fact that you just listened and fixed the problem in their favor. That's going to drive traffic. I was like, that's tight. That's a cool lesson that Garyvee just taught me. And they might teach that. And I would expect them to teach things like that in a marketing course at a college, for sure. So when we say, like, if you go to college ten years ago, some of that stuff is outdated by now. It's like, well, if you got a lesson like that, that's pretty valuable, you know? Yeah, yeah, I don't know that it is available on YouTube. I gave, but and that should expand or expand this scale or like if, like 90 years ago, like a hundred years ago, it's like, man, what the what the fuck we all did 100 years ago, marketing was different, but the same. You know, I'm I'm saying there's something there for sure. Yeah, yeah. But yeah, some of the practical, logistical day to day steps are different now. You know. I'm saying up to date with that as a whole thing. It's a whole narrative. It's a whole story. One of the things like. So After Effects, for instance, one of the things you can do in there right away is create a mask over, like, let's say like, with the pork chop, for instance, you just like, create a mask around the pork chop and then you move a frame and then the if things move, then you readjust the mask around the pork chop again, and then if every time it moves, you readjust it, and then eventually you have it so that it just tracks like straight up through the frames. And you do it by going frame by frame yourself in the middle of going frame by frame myself, I was like, okay, this is this is where the line where the only people that are doing this work is someone that's either like literally content creator, like me or someone that's like an in-house marketing person, like on the Colts, they do stuff like this where they'll track the kick returner, and then once they have the mask around the kick, return a frame by frame, then they'll have him, tracked, and then they'll have him centered. So everything around them is just like, it looks really cool on social media. I'm like, okay, but no one's no one's going to pay me to come to this for three hours at four in the morning, like no one wants to pay that price point. You know? But but I'm in that field of people who understand what after that, that's how this is happening. Okay? You have to make a frame by frame mask and it might take like an hour to do it. But it's cool to know how things are being done. You know what I'm saying? Yeah, yeah, I think I think Adobe's trying to release something like that, or they have something like that coming up with, like, I help or like tracking something. Yeah. Through the shit. Yeah. I think I saw a commercial for it. Yeah. Like they're in the NFL. I'm pretty sure that's the shit. You see, I learned about it a lot last night. One, I think they released it in the beta, but then that beta, it kept crashing like that tool specifically was making it crash. So then they took that version of 25.6 off and then gave everybody only 25.5 again. And then it took ChatGPT and me 45 fucking minutes to figure it out last night. I'm screenshotting it all these things. I'm fucking dude, dude, I upgraded my account to all packages. It was on discount anyways and like doing all this shit. And finally it's like, oh dude, I'm sorry. And then I look up on Google, why can't I do this? And then I screenshot that and showed the charity and it's like, oh, I didn't know that. I didn't know it pulled it off. I'm sorry. So you can chat. You can lead you down some false rabbit holes. This is chatty, witty. Maybe you're all you're at. The very bottom is like highlighting. I really saw it last night. Oh, yeah? Damn. Yeah. We're not up to date with, like, exactly what's going on right now. Right now? In all fields, all the time. It's getting there, though. Kind of ten years. I was literally on the cutting edge with it last night, though. I'm like, look like I'm like teaching it. I'm like, okay, so you're wrong about this, but now that you know that, tell me what to do now. And then it's like, okay, well, you're going to have to install After Effects. And I was like, okay, that's fine. And then did it. And then it took me all the way through and then and then it said, well, it's 25.6 comes back out. If they fix the bug, you should be able to do that just in the beta with more like it's easier with the AI. I guess you should just be able to draw a little mask around it. And even if you're not exactly 100% correct through the frames, it's like, no, no, I got you. You're trying to track this person right here. I got it, and I guess it does a good job. And that's pretty. That's what I'm saying. I want to if that's available, I want to be able to do that. Yeah. If I can get out there, stay on the cutting edge. And that's what I'll say. Excuse me. On the screen things are going. The second story was. 40 minutes. We're chilling. Nice. We're gonna go for extra long this time. Nice. You know, we're going to give a little bit of a Patreon exclusive full episode. Exclusive. Exclusive. Get comfortable chilling. What's up motherfuckers? How you doing? I love that show. Ideas just gets on a podcast and he's like, hey, oh, that second. Oh yeah, I got my fucking pumpkin spice latte. Okay, I got, I got a fucking Mucinex and Eliza's because I'm smoking deep into the voice last night, ladies and gentlemen. And that's how it started. Podcast. And I'm just like, this guy's so cool. Okay, granted, being that personal, go all that. Yeah, it is pop. Being that person all the time probably has social negative ramifications. But when just hanging out with your friends, it's really fun to be like how some guys like. Hey, that's how I got. Yeah, get loose, get loose. Which is I just bring a different type of alcohol to the table. That's fucking sad. Tequila. That's the kind of Bacardi light on fire. 150 100 it's it's pop. Everclear from Everclear. Yeah. So it is. We love them for it. Love them for it. But probably the funniest person I love him and the one I love the other one. I've seen some shit with him. He's been around for, I don't know, for a while now. This like he blew up. How do you think he. Just popped was always going to happen. I think people they pay for marketing. There's a lot of there's a lot of answer to this question. One, I think that he's super clever. Like, really clever. Like he is fucking hilarious. I think. So I know as an adult, one of my favorite things that I just enjoy about life is my ability to, like my connection between my thoughts and my speaking. Like while I'm speaking and the thoughts I'm having and like how I'm getting to the words that I'm going to say. And then like, sometimes I'm like about to go down this store and I know that they don't know that, but I know where I'm going to go. And then I realize for whatever reason, I can't go that way. And so within the context of not looking like, you know, a weirdo, I have to, like, pivot in my own mind and also hold the social construct that I'm like a great presenter and this is a great presentation and go down a different door that I didn't prepare for. And then if I'm able to freestyle within that door and then get myself back down to the next level of something I'm more prepared for internally, I'm like, damn, that was crazy. Well, that's crazy. Really wild bro. That's nuts. You're walk away. I'm like, no no no no no no no no no. Is that for me? You know, and then I almost told you the other day I was, I was just going to bring up. I was like, dude, this is just so it's so much of it. It's freestyling. I'm just like, walking up to the table. I'm like, all right, what's your temperature? BPM, what's the vibe here? What do we celebrate? Okay. All right. Cool. My name is Matthew. Running welcome, blue. Yeah. And I start freestyling for you. And sometimes we're just here in new Jersey hitting on these tables, man. Yes. And, the cool thing is we don't have to rhyme, but everything else is legitimately freestyle. I'm like, I've to go to bars, you know? Of course I've got cadences that I know here flows and patterns of flavors at the menu and say things. Yeah, oh yeah, oh yeah, I can do, the ones that trip me out the most are spicy guava. When I do the spicy guava description, I've literally done it probably over 300 times. And when I say it, it's like the I'm not even reading the words of the I have the script right here in my mind, and I don't even look at it. And it trips me out vocally to say, spicy guavas, habanero infused tequila with the guava gumdrop surf that we make in house. My personal favorite. It's like a spicy margarita, but better. Like I said that from a place of memory, but I don't even, like, look at the tablet. It's like, I, it's like I press a button and it comes out of me. Boop. Yeah, that's trippy programing. That's trippy. But trust me, do. Every time I do it, it's just like, boom, like crazy that we have buttons we can press. Whatever you're answering a phone call center or whatever. Yeah. Thank you for calling the pizza home with the pizza. My name is Jessica Yellin. Can I take your. Food. Is that a good burger. Yeah. Oh really good burger. Yeah yeah yeah. It's a script. Script. So there's a script. It's so dialed that it's trippy to watch. You like fire that snaps. There's other times I have to freestyle, you know. Oh, yeah. That's where I think I read that. Yeah, yeah, I read the table. Yeah. True. I read the table. Yeah, it sure was. Selby. You know, it's like it's like, I don't know, because I feel I was thinking about this in regards to, like, pastas or like our pastas specifically preaches like five, five like ones on Saturday, four on Sunday, five total. It's like a stand up comedian. You know, I'm saying it's like an act. It's like a script that you've you've developed, that you've written, you know. But yeah, sometimes you get to write the script, sometimes you're just freestyling in the moment, deciding what path to say, well, what to say. And I say, yeah, I was watching some comedians before I fell asleep last night, do videos, and that was the thing I was appreciating about them is when they had to, like, divert what they were saying and they're obviously kind of off script and then sometimes they like, handle it well and sometimes they handle it phenomenally well. And the ones where I watch them, like, pivot into a funny joke over here and then watch them transition back over here and then watch them crush, and then watch them call back to over here and then watch them fully get out of that into something else completely. I'm like, fire, fucking fire! Nice. Well done. Like, I see it like that because I do a ton of presenting, you know what I'm saying? So that's just something I've become, like, appreciative of or aware of or that's something I'm like a nuanced reality, enjoying when I see someone else do. Well, you know, yeah. Comedy is crazy. It's just. It's just talking. It's just words. Yeah. Sometimes you get to organize the words. And other times, just like on stage improvising, like improv comedy or, you know, doing crowd work. I was this week could be the last I hear this style that I fucking loved who's just, like, walked up to the mic. I was like, you ever think about the first guy? They kill two birds with one stone? And then you ever think about how they talk about it nowadays? Pretty casual. Did you see the way I. Two birds get one shot? Man. It's like you're over here, like so diminished. Yeah. I'm gonna pick up my laundry and Starbucks, too, so I'm just going to do both the same time. Two fucking birds. Yeah. Anyways, I can't like exactly the way I didn't have the magic for it, but the way he did it, it was like electric lit people up and it was like the simplest. It was so simple. Simple premise, simple delivery, not even saying a lot of words crashing. And I was like, that's really, that's so cool. That's so effective. You do a lot of damage for a second with your comedy style, and you don't even have to be you, not even being you. You're just like, do you ever think about the first guy to kill two birds with one stone? I don't know, man. It's crazy, I think. Yeah, just dialog. My name is Pete. I'm a construction worker. Okay. Doing the thing every day, you know what I'm saying? You guys know, though, that's like, don't you? He likes to drink. They're, like, really presenting themselves so much, like, so much persona, so much personality. Some people walk up and they're like, Our plant's like giving us oxygen or we giving plants carbon. People like I don't know they just that's what I'm trying to discover about comedy. It's like the style and the way you walk up and do your thing can be so different, you know, act. Yeah, yeah. But it's still just walking up and using words. Yeah. Just you organize them in the stylization that grants people more or less. Yeah. Via servers, like having a whole bunch of, like, different sized parties, like watching you do stand up comedy. Pretty much. Yeah. Business end of comedy. But it could be. Yes, it is. Sometimes it is sometimes a punch line. Like, have you delivered any good punchlines recently? Not recently, but all this was saying that like it's it's tougher because I was just going to say I have like the, the, punch line that I've had for a long time. Well, like the go to line, you know what I'm saying? And it usually hits it's limits whenever they're like, any allergies? No allergies. I guess we're gonna find out, because I always thought that was kind of funny that, like, how do you find out if you have an allergy to something? Yeah, like something has to happen, or you go to, like, an allergy test, I guess. Yeah. No no no, no. Yeah. Well, it was like, oh yeah, dude, I fucking shellfish learned that one hard. Like it's like, oh fuck. Most people it's like that. That's a whole it's it's a funny line, you know, not everybody catches it. But I would think it's funny. Yeah, I would say it, it hits more often than not, you know. And then it's like, boom, I trust this guy. This guy's cool. This guy's cool because this is a it's not a set of comedy. They go when they're expecting something else. That makes it even more fun. Yeah. Yeah. Totally. Yeah. There's times where, a good punchline, like, sometimes it's just the punch lines in the air. And if the server to steps in and dunks it and walks away. Hilarious. Well, hilarious. One blood representative for that as a server. So yeah, the other way. Comedian, comedian, whole bunch of stand up presenter a little freestyle individual. Yeah, yeah. Freestyle within the constraints of what they have in mind of what they're trying to do. Yeah I do, I did a lot of crowd work. Yeah okay. Yeah yeah yeah. Like, how long have you guys been together? For? Seven years. Seven years. I'm curious. No. Do you mind me asking? Seven years ago. How did you guys meet? Got to work right there. I want to work with whatever the hell they gave me to be, like. Oh, you guys met at work? That's my favorite story. Okay, so when I look at you guys, like, What? She's definitely the boss. And this guy's a really hard worker. What's the deal? They're like, now we've been in school. I'm like, okay, okay. He must have needed help with his homework. Is that what's going on there? You guys meet at the library and then just just, you know, try to hit a punch line and then get the fuck out of that dialog. It's like, okay, check went in there, did some crowd work. They're warmed up now, which was spill appetizers. Here we go. But that's what it like. You know what I'm saying? Like sometimes I pull up to the table and I'm like, I do feel like I should do a little bit more connecting before I get into the selling. I'm like, what's the best thing to do that here? You know, what's the best avenue to get in there? What do you guys. They're traveling, you know, it's like, where are you from? Oh that's that's that's always a good one. That's always a good one. Yeah. Y'all from here. So this is your first time here and wow. That's crazy. Okay, cool. And then I'll say that. Yeah, the idea of that with like, Let's say hello at that place. It. This feels good sometimes. What? The spiel. It's funny because I'm reading the situation, and sometimes the situation calls for, Yes. I want to hear all the information, but, like, hurry up. You know, I don't want you to stop. I don't want to hear this. But like you and I both know this is taking a while. I'm like. And when they go over busses and house by hand every single day. Yeah, at least in the head. I know it's going to come in a pistachio pesto, a little bit of squash, and then I'm like literally going like a speed run through it. At that point, I think that's even almost more impressive. My view. Yeah. Sometimes there's like the energy of deciding between doing that and like engaging with them and doing the crowd work or like, you know, saying giving that the social aspect. I guess sometimes, like you, you try to read the table and usually like you could see if they're more or less receptive to the social crowd work energy. Sure. You know. Sure. And then but there is still the spirit within you that discerns between the two sides, between like engaging in that conversation or like walking those verbal like hallways or not, you know? Yeah, because you do. There is like the underlying like, we have to fucking I got other stuff. I got it too. Yeah, totally. There's, there's easy ones like asking something, addressing the fact that it's the anniversary with questions about the couple, you know, like I got I feel like I got to do that. But there is times where it's like, I'm way too fucking visit, to even talk about doing another hallway. It's like I'm giving you water, bread. I'm asking you if you have an allergy and then I'll be right back. Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah for sure. But I try to get into that connection point with every table. Another thing that I realize is just like, oh, think about that. Adding that more into the dialog, I was like, I just ask them where they're from, you know? So so that's always a good and I always just like I just the anniversary, you know, I'm saying okay. Yeah. You know, so we're was like, yeah. That was how that kind of idea presented itself to me in doing more of the research included that, you know. Yeah. So asking for those reviews, you know, I was like, yeah, especially on the tables, you feel like you can hit that. There's some typos that, you know, like they just they just love you, you know, having a great time. Yeah, totally. And they'll be like, we just had the best time. That's all. Little buddies I love you or sometimes it's that the dad's like, hey man, this was phenomenal. You were really great. You know, there's times where the dad wants to give you the nod of approval. Those are the times where it's an easy convert. You know, it's uncomfortable to ask always, because it's just not natural. But those are easy converts. And what that, And I agree, a little more where you're from is good. Yeah. It's good for the soul. So then. Yeah. So then, but to tie that all back into talking about like, the pastor doing his thing on stand up comedians doing their thing at some point it's like because like when I say that bread line does, it feels inauthentic to a degree. You know, I think, as I've said so many times. So it's like it's like the like the script becomes disingenuous almost. Yeah. But it's like so necessary to hold up the social construct that we're all interwoven in. Yeah. You came here to get served. You know, it's a script and I dance with you on the script and, you know, the. And you need it. We all need it. We all need it to present it. Yeah. But yeah, to be the pastor I have to preach the same thing five times in a row. I think four times an hour. Enjoys taking as many setups as he can.

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00 service. No don't do it I does it. Any other service. We talk about any other service. I feel like that's a nice moment probably for me getting that. No no. So segue way for a little bit. And then I'll be like oh you're telling me I got to get back on. Wait. All right hold on. We're going back into the here we go, here we go. We're in the next verse. Yeah. It's cool. It's a cool job. It's a cool thing to do with your mind and with you. I freestyle for a living, I really do. I mean, when I wanted to be a musician. I freestyle for a living. I mean, it's just crazy, you know what I'm saying? Like, And I'm getting better at it. Getting good. Like getting wisdom, you know, from doing it for so long. So it's kind of cool. Yeah. It's experience of that time. Those circles coming through, whatever you're giving your energy and attention to, it's like there's something going on here. Yeah, we get better at it. Okay, I don't know. It's also like, okay, well then choose the things you want to get better at. It's like, I think we're, like on a path or like, our heart is, like, drawn to things and like, getting into music and and serving and then ultimately having that be like presentation and freestyling, putting words together on the fly, that being like sales tied and then social media being like marketing tide and then my entrepreneurship like desires kind of like culminating and blending. It's like, oh, that feels like, on the first side if you're like, oh, I should if I'm going to get better at things that I should pick, things that I want to get better at. It's like, it's like you're in creative freestyle mode and you're going to like, architect your life, which, like you should, but it's also feels more like life is kind of like happening to you. Like you need to wake up and show up and do your best for the things that are around you. And then like, you're going to end up going down some paths, and those paths are there. You're not going to freestyle the path that's there. You're going to go down the path that you feel magnetized to. And it's going to turn into a desert. Yes. To bring it all the way back and that thing will develop you. But it is a fucking desert. Yeah. It's it's real, it's fucking real. It's fucking real Christmas. Big time's getting better. Things. Yeah. Dog, it's just perfect. But it's not perfect. But it's worth it. I don't know, that's our fucking big boy slogan. I think it's just like a truth that we're hitting on here. It's hard. It's, as I say, it's just hard to. Always maintain that level of faith and level of certainty. You know, love is worth it because it's also going to take everything you got. So take everything you got. So take it with you. Yeah. And the ability to maintain the output of everything you got is impossible because you got to sleep and shit, and you got to organize your life around your body, like your health and your financial responsibilities. You know, a lot going on all the time. And then the social ramifications of the social construct that we're kind of alluding to a little bit. So it's like ego and those are real things that are like kind of forming you, you know. Yeah. Or are giving you paths and like options to navigate between create your own, better or worse. But there is something in your heart, I think, that pulls you and you because you feel it. You know, this is a feeling process. Yeah, yeah I agree with you. Like a smaller. Everything you got to let take everything you got. It's a lot. And I also think the slogan though. Let's go with it. Come on. Where is it. Well I think but it's worth it to us. Just like get your victories in life. Like, I think we're we're still young. Young as hell. And our company is young as hell. And I want to be successful. I do. And pursuing that and catching with the right timing for the environment and the culture around us and our maturity as a company. And and this adapting to the understanding what we're selling and stuff like that. It's a lot, it's a lot, it's a lot. I feel very optimistic. Also, if I were just more interested in diving into different things, like if I went back to go to law school or something like that right now, I think that that would also go well. But I think that that's a life, you know, like that's a commitment to a life. Yeah. And I would get that life and I think it would go well. But then like even like evaluating that, like even with that life, I'm like, I don't I don't think that that's the outcome that would be the most desirable ten years from now. I think that if I do this and make this work ten years from now, I'm going to be like, that was fucking worth it. So worth it, dude. And like, my life now is sick as fuck and and like, and I'm we're I think I'm young enough and optimistic enough that I still feel good about that. And if I was 40 or 45, I might feel differently. I said something to my dad and he was just like, dude, I think, I think you might be him. And I was like, dude, this is like, okay. It's like, I just kind of sucks. But I get it. I think America is like predicated on that as, like an American. I hear that story and I'm like, oh, like, so you're in the hard part still? I'm like, yeah. He's like, well, and then you're saying, I like 41, 42. You might be like, maybe it's not the hard part. Maybe it's like not working, or maybe I should just pivot into something else, something more so like create some ease and some comfort and some stability here. And I'm like, yeah, exactly. And he's like. Damn bro. That's yeah. That's it. That's that's you're right on the that's right on the edge of I think you're doing the right thing. And I was like, that's cool. Thank you. You know, not begging you to tell me that, you know, the guy's story. Yeah. But it was then on a side note, I was like, if you're just being honest, like he's like, yeah, the American, you know, you want to build a business and live life your way and have the American dream and do that. It's like, that's what people aspire to. That's what we're supposed to be predicated on trying to help people do that. So is a place where you can do that. You're trying to do that. I think I believe in that ideal. I think I believe that we're predicated on it. I want my tax dollars to go to programs that help poor, poor people establish themselves and hopefully be able to pursue the American dream themselves is the ultimate. People can immigrate here and pursue the American dream themselves. So like so, yes, I believe in the pursuit of the American dream. So yeah, you should be able to do it. It should work for you. Like on a with a science level, you know, story. Yeah, yeah, yeah. So that's and yeah I just like agree with that sentiment is what I'm I guess why I'm bringing it up more than just tell you like my dad believes in me. I was like oh fuck yeah I think he's right. You know, which is cool because sometimes the parents are just more concerned at other times. For sure. Yeah, yeah. Do you want to make sure there is doing well. You know. So totally it's like come on kid. Talk to my kid like my sister's doing kid. What's it doing over there being a kid That's bad a kid. You really get enough. Oh yeah. I was gonna be your babies. You know, my sister sunny? Let's turn 26, I guess. And then, she finish her degree, ended up getting a degree in digital media marketing, and then ended up getting a job at a marketing company from an interview she got because my dad knew someone from somewhere that was a CEO, CFO on the board of trustees of a company. They had a marketing department that did mostly marketing and sales for this textbook company. And so my dad arranges this interview, she gets the interview, gets the job in that company, gets from intern to employee, from employee to full 40 hour week, full time employee. And then her department got downsized. But then she was promoted post downsizing. So she is cooking. Cooking makes decent money. Sometimes we make more money like it makes me sad that she's not making, like, more money. You know, probably like $55,000 a year. But has a 401 K. She's about to go take a car and for the down payment down and start paying monthly payments on a car for herself. Stable job. I think when my dad checks in with her right now, that's super like. I hope that means something like that. You know, it's nice. You're like, things are going well. You know, I can sleep at night. Like you're going to wake up. You're going to go to work. Your bills are paid. You have a chance of chilling. Yeah. You're chilling. And I think sometimes my dad's like, I don't know if I fucked up with myself. I'm not so fucked up though. I mean, we'll do this full time. I love him. Fuck, no no, no, it's there. It's the parental instinct. I think I was maybe even saying all that to bring back around to. But I don't think that you and I would have it any other way. I think that's who we're playing. Talk to me. Very difficult mode. There's nothing you rather have anyway pursuing this. Yeah. Staying in this desert, pushing through. Because. Yeah, I've been listening to the passwords book. Oh, nice. Yeah. Dude, it's on audible. Spotify. Whatever. Really? Yeah. So Spotify. Oh. That's sick. Okay, cool. Yeah. It's fucking lit. But this part of the it's all about different biblical stories. And then what was one thing they said this took out and stuck to me was a like a current reality. And your final destiny was like, this is this is this is what it is, bro. Like the story of Joseph, or when he's like thrown into the pit by his brothers and then he goes and sold into slavery in a part of his house, and then gets thrown into prison and eventually becomes the fucking dude in Egypt and saves his family. It's like you're it's in that part, you know, in the same thing, in the kind of in the alchemists where they're in the glass shop and then in the desert, it's like it's just is part of the part of the story. And I think it's a good bit of them in the desert to them and the Alchemist. Yeah. That's like part of it. And then it's within the game that should be been out of you where you find the. The valuable information, the thing that truly points you in the direction that you need to go. A curse post process of getting demolished, which happens in the deepest and darkest part of the of the forest. Yeah, it has midway. It's like hero's journey. That's what I'm saying. It's like my mom would have no other thing for her son then. Like, if if it'd be like, Kelly, we want to offer your son the peak hero's journey. It's just going to be, like, a lot. I think I won't be like, oh, that's fine. I'll let people even get that opportunity. And then. And then I think if you ask me the same question, I probably like, that's fine. I'll people get that opportunity. Like I'm down until like, well, so I'm saying like I don't think I would, I don't I don't think anybody would have it any other way. But it is a lot. I'm not I don't want to be like grandiose in nature and say, like my life is going to be the best life ever. It's just a lot of suffering right now. But y'all just wait. But I just think in general, like, you can. Yeah, yeah, kind of, you know what I'm saying. So I hope that happens. I hope that we have this like nice come up. And the investment was worth it. The sacrifices were worth it. You know, it's worth it, you know. Yeah. But I believe that I presupposition that's I guess part of the faith that gets me into this, this far in the desert, you know. It's hard not to go crazy. Yeah. The part of the story the water for weeks. Yeah. It did. That's cool. This is also. Yeah I. I think there's things that I'm still finding and discovering and learning right now attuning to part of. It's just not going crazy. I feel with the picks sometimes I get to the picks over the last three weeks and I'm like, I don't fucking know. Like I sit down with the coffee dude and I'm like, I can't smell shit, dude. Like, what's up, brother? These abuse addicts. Yeah. You know, and then it's like, it's crazy because, like, I can almost feel the person who does know things like right there and I'm like, oh, I'm not that person. And he's like, right there. I wish I could just like come into it. And I'm like, not in that timeline right now because I'm not handling this well. I'm not handling this well, and I can handle this better. So that's why I'm also just like. Just like one by one process fixed things and they're manifesting fixes this process. If I get on a program like the Cage program that fixes that process, just like a ton of my processes, my house cleanliness process is a little bit better, like my dishes and laundry and stuff, but I'm like a tool in those processes and just lock in as many processes as possible. So that way when I sit down on Thursday, Friday, Saturday night, in the timeline of the person that smelling the coffee and knowing what the fuck's going on, I think that part's important. That's the most important part. Everything else is like, I could have a better job but be failing at that part. And it's like, I don't think that's a better situation, you know, than a better story. No no no it's a it's about being on top of everything and, and sitting down knowing what the fuck's going on with the coffee being like already on the I already know what clues I got. Show me that. Yeah, that that's headed this way and this way. And like, it's just right there, you know, and and it's cool to feel with the pigs. It's sad to be on the other end, but it's also a nice, honing tool navigation process. A lot of negative emotions are, I think, truly just like alerts like, Jordan Peterson was talking about resentment. It's like resentment is good in the sense, because it can tell you that, just something is wrong or miscalculated or miss Wade. And it's like, if this I think if I listen to the podcast with the mom who had, like the five kids, and then she's like doing so much childcare that she's accidentally becoming resentful of the husband, and then Jordan Peterson, Peterson's like, well, don't be upset with yourself for becoming resentful, but don't become resentful or resentful when this is good because it's telling you that something is like it. Misaligned, out of balance. So like, you need to at least express your husband like, hey, I'm I feel resentful feelings. Can you can we just like, say, one phase of integration of you helping me with childcare and just see if that helps to minimize that feeling? Because I think it would. And so now if I feel now sometimes when I feel negative emotions after hearing that thing from the podcast, I'm like, okay, this is there's just something out of balance here. This is just like an alarm system telling me something's out of balance. And then what's the remedy to that is just creating more balance so that you have less alarms going off, which is. And then how do you do that? For me, right now I'm trying to like, get things integrated into processes that I don't think about too much, sleeps another one. If you just like have a process of sleep, like if if your sleep's out of whack and then you get yourself on a good sleep process where you don't even think about it, like go to bed or wake up at this time in this time, that's better. You know. Yeah. Stuff I've been thinking about it for sure. Yeah. Yeah I guess I was talking about defining a good life. It's like I think those things more define a good life than like the reality of our income right now or our situation living how it looks on the outside. Exactly. Yeah. Yeah yeah. How are you? And you were young. Average age of a first time homebuyer in America. What do you think it is? Well, let me do better for the script okay? Okay. Question for you. Question. What do you think the first fuck. Actually, question. Question. What do you think the average age of the first time homebuyer in America for 2025 was 2025, this past time, home buyer average age now is definitely more than it was back in the 70s and 80s. Probably closer to like 35 for an answer. Yes, it's a good answer. I think it's 40. Okay. Yeah. Fuck yeah. I looked it up last night, 40 years old. Kind of crazy, though, just to think about 1975, 50 years ago, it was probably younger because I was a 2122. It's a good question for it was ChatGPT. We got the internet, we have the resources. We got the source. My boys are trying to get football trades done before the deadline, which is where our deadline in dynasty is tonight when Monday Night Football ends. But I don't think we're going to get a deal done. It's okay, it's okay. Okay, so let's see. Church. Beatty, show me the age of average. If. First time homebuyers in America for the last 50 years to me. And activity were going hard last night. We were def, like, from midnight to 4 a.m. for sure. We were in the fucking blender, going through everything. Sending us screenshots. It's super easy sometimes when it's trying to tell me how to do something and I'm like, it's literally not there. And then I'll just send a screenshot and be like, it's not there. And I'll be like, oh, I'm sorry, because I realize what's going on now, and then we'll like, work there. One more shit. Then let's see this are coming. Yeah. So you're like, teaching it at that point. What is it? It's, like conscious, but it's something. Yeah, yeah, it was giving me a hard time when I was trying to rewrite the lyrics to, you know, sunshine. And it was like, I don't want a copyright in French. And I'm like, Brev, I'm just telling you to be a notepad. And I was like, okay, I can do that. I was like, God damn, bro, I've been so difficult. And there's rewrote the bars and then copied that into music. TVT and then told that the prompt and it's solid, it's good. But then when I played it into the video, I'm like, this looks kind of crazy. It looks like a movie. It's just like, perfectly. It looks like a good I don't know, man. I'm fascinated with marketing right now. Yeah. Fuck yeah. The ad campaign part is part that. Okay, first of all, ain't nobody gonna pay us right now for the amount of work and effect we can bring to a product because, like, it's like one thing to shoot the content, one thing the edit the content, one thing to, do that and, like, post it. And then another thing to manage media suite. Another thing is having like an actual clever ad campaign that would. Okay, here's another thing Gary Vee said in that video that that touched my heart. He said, oh, I think we got a lot of stuff here and then go to the okay. No, it's like, that's how we can govee so let's try save for the Patreon. Now I can go, okay. Yeah. I'll, I'll say the same about Gary Vee, and then I'll take it through the information that I did have right here. So Gary Vee says, most marketing campaigns are predicated on this is how a marketing campaign is done in this industry. This is what it looked like. This what it looked like. This is what we do. This is what we do. But the best marketing campaigns are predicated on making content that the viewer actually finds dope and that they if they're actually entertained by it. And then he points to an example like the Super Bowl is one time a year where advertising companies do a really good job of trying to make content that the user will really enjoy. It's like they're trying to make a funny commercial or they're trying to make it interesting. Everyone sits down and they're like, oh shit, let's do it. This is a really good commercial right here. It's like, that's the feeling that you want to give your consumer is like, oh, this is a really good commercial. It's like most of the time you're just trying to like put your product in their face or you're trying to like apply some principle that you heard in marketing school, which is like there are good principles in marketing school. But it's like when you're advertising, when you're distributing your viewership, you want to provide something that people will be like, oh, this is really dope. This is interesting. Now I was like, that's fire. That's that's a good thing to know, you know? Yeah. It's like showing your dress at the like a runway. You know I'm saying it's like oh shit. Well come and watch the show. People watch the Super Bowl for the commercials. Or that many time or for the halftime show like you know it's just the big thing that we're doing. The commercials are like the best, one of the best parts of the Super Bowl movement. That's a fucking whole. As a fan of the Super Bowl, I want to watch the commercials. Like, I don't want to always be getting up and doing like I think you halftime. We should throw the football with your boys outside a little bit. You know, I'm not gonna I don't love the halftime show. That's more football. The boys took a brewski social mingle time, and then oats and a lot of commercials. You're getting food or I'm taking a piss, or I'm gonna do this and that. But at some point, I'm like, oh, I'm not watching make commercials. Like, let's let's engage these commercials to they man, you know. And then some of those commercials really deliver in that time. So that's whenever I'm like I can. Yeah. Do you have marketing. Yeah. Yeah. So that's what I'm talking about. Like there's a madman factor. Yes. Where it's like Don Draper. Yes. Dude. That's the ultimate. Like that's the diamond that can make us really fucking stand out I think is if we make cool creative ads that I for me, right now, every ad, the Super Bowl commercial, like I want to make everything just cool. Make it don't make it interesting. Yes, I agree, we should, for sure and keep it simple for a lot of ads. It's just like five seconds here, five seconds here, five seconds here, and you get the content, you make the content. I believe in that. But I also think that if we have a good idea for some kind of like something that when you're watching on Instagram, that will just make you like watch it, because the same way it makes you stop and watch any other post, that's, that's part of the something I'm wrapping my mind around that I think will help elevate take things to the next level. Interested in experiments in that? Because if we're good at being creative like that, then we really will tap into Don Draper energy. Or like Draper on this house. Draper kind of excited about that. Yeah, there's that marketing aspect. And I'm mad, man. Creative abstract aspect. And yeah, and nobody coming up with that idea is super valuable. I don't think we're going to get paid at it's value. That's just going to be the thing that eventually progresses us to the next level again and again and again and again and again until we do get paid for that. So that's why I had this idea for and you know, sign off after this. I'm chilling. But yeah, I just wanted to let me say like a couple minutes. We. Yeah. We said so. Yeah. That idea for the commercial is to have the AI music come in and just be like a little bit off and then have the steak not be there, and then like, flash to the final presentation and it like, being like the real product. And then same thing. Let's take chef on the steak. Same thing with Chateaubriand. Like take it off of the board. Take everything off the board when you're filming. Just like the board and everything around the board. And then flash to the commercial with like the product on it and then have, like, the most, maybe just even in white letters, say, like, Who's telling your story? Or like, something, something along those lines, but then also on the, I guess on the back end. The other thing is I wanted to show like a flash, like a quick flash of, like, shooting on the drone and doing, like, an interview where someone's, like, talking to the camera, all the different kind of post that we made. And just, like, even, like, closeups of food and stuff like that and, like, flash all of those just to show, like, we make a bunch of stuff, you know, and then maybe have, like a link to the, portfolio, if that's possible in the post or in the bio, you know. Yeah. And I think that that would, that's all that's in the market, in my opinion. I think it'd be dope. Yeah. The thing is that, yeah, there are people who need that shit. Yeah, who want to pay for that shit. Need these shots in my house. I need whatever if there are. And if they're on meds, we would find them. So, we'll find out. But. Yeah, my gambles and your. I do think so, too. And I definitely think there's people that need leads. I don't know when you're a salesman and you need leads. I don't know if you go to a website or, like, who? I don't know how that process works in the office. They just come in the mail. Yeah. You know. Yeah. I guess what they're pointing to is someone purchased the leads from a company via a website, a phone call. Right? Yeah. How are they tracking who's looking for paper? Yeah. Right. So I don't know. So that's what I'm saying. When you went to marketing school in 1990, you were learning that. I don't know shit about that, but I don't know shit about ministry back then either. Yeah. No. Yeah. No. Yeah, exactly. So, as far as that goes, I think that that's a, that's, like, if someone wants to get a real businessy, it's like content creation is one thing. If you don't wanna pay for that, I get it. But do you have marketing? You know, this is literally return on investment. We can talk about ROI. So it's just I almost understand pushy salesmen now because it's like, no, I will make you more money. No, you'll make more money. Like, trust me, you'll make more money. I hear what you're saying, but you'll make more money because then ultimately, if that's true, then you'd be dumb not to listen to that person. So being like, having answers to objections to rebuttals and stuff like that, you know? Yeah, I almost get where they're coming from. Yeah. So that's it if you could deliver it. Yeah. And then if we could track it now and like, it works and like, here you go. Like confirmed. You know, they confirm reservations or confirm sales or confirmed whatever. Yeah I know, here's how many times people clicked on it. Whatever the analytics behind it. Yeah, yeah. So we gotta find a clever way to sell that to people. Not exactly sure how we're going to sell that to people, but yeah, I think that's a right next step. You know what I'm saying. Yeah. In the development of the story. Yeah. Me too. Oh, it works for people that consider wise counsel or mentors. It's literally working. So yeah. Dog okay I think what's a sign out of the first one. And go into the Patreon okay. Extendo clip. Yes I hear 107B this is a brand new process. Brand new process Patreon or moving over full episodes over on Patreon YouTube. And then thanks to Spotify I love you. Yes. Have a great Thanksgiving! I'm thankful for you guys. Thank you. Yeah, I think it's important to give homage to the Holy Spirit in the at least abstract, objective, agreeable sense of I'm going to be thankful or go to going to try and express gratitude towards my story. Just get in line with that on Thanksgiving. And the Christmas is Christmas quite a lot. We talk about every time of the year. Enjoy it. Happy Thanksgiving. It's just potato casserole. Start a Secret Santa where you're at. I'm trying to think of how do you combat that feeling of like, if people aren't enjoying Christmas, so Secret Santa, get someone a nice gift, get you, give you one unit of Christmas energy into where you're at. 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